Friday, February 20, 2009

Give your 100%

A boy and a girl were playing together. The boy had a collection of marbles. The girl had some sweets with her. The boy told the girl that he will give her all his marbles in exchange for her sweets. The girl agreed. The boy kept the biggest and the most beautiful marble aside and gave the rest to the girl. The girl gave him all her sweets as she had promised. That night, the girl slept peacefully. But the boy couldn't sleep as he kept wondering if the girl had hidden some sweets from him the way he had hidden his best marble.

Moral of the story: If you don't give your hundred percent in a relationship, you'll always keep doubting if the other person has given his/her hundred percent.. This is applicable for any relationship like love, friends, employer-employee relationship etc., Give your hundred percent to everything you do and sleep peacefully

My Views & Review on Slumdog Millionaire

Slumdog Millionaire ...The most talked movie almost by everyone in the entire world... The movie that stands a winner even if it did not make it to the Oscars is what I feel...The movie revolves around a young guy from the slums of Mumbai, how he goes on to win the most popular game show in the world (Who wants to be a Millionaire)... Though one feels it was not in an appropriate manner Mumbai has been portrayed in the movie we also need to look at positive side which teaches us how a person with no great educational career/background goes on to win 20 million rupees in a game show just by his experiences in life... It is infact a learning that at times what we see and experience in our day to day life helps us take some of the important decisions in our life in the future although it’s not true always... Infact these are the small things we often tend to ignore...


On a whole I would say that the movie is not just an entertainer but something to look forward for good learning and an approach of understanding and pursuing life in a different perspective... To know more why it’s the most talked movie I recommend you should watch it... I would rate it 4.5/5.

"Excellence" is a drive from inside


A German once visited a temple under construction where he saw a sculptor making an idol of God. Suddenly he noticed a similar idol lying nearby. Surprised, he asked the sculptor,
"Do you need two statues of the same idol?" "No," said the s
culptor without looking up, "We need only one, but the first one got damaged at the last stage."
The gentleman examined the idol and found no apparent damage. "Where is the damage?" he asked.
"There is a scratch on the nose of the idol." said the sculptor, still busy with his work.
"Where are you going to install the idol?"

The sculptor replied that it would be installed on a pillar twenty feet high. "If the idol is that far, who is going to know that there is a scratch on the nose?" the gentleman asked.
The sculptor stopped his work, looked up at the gentleman, smiled and said, "I will know it."

The desire to excel is exclusive of the fact whether someone else appreciates it or not.
"Excellence" is a drive from inside, not outside. Excellence is not for someone else to notice but for your own satisfaction and efficiency...

A Nice Lesson...!

Once a boy went to a shop with his mother.
The shop keeper looked at the small cute child and showed him a bottle with sweets and said 'Dear Child...U can take the sweets....

But the child didn't take.

The shop keeper was surprised... Such a small child he is and why is he not taking the sweets from the bottle.

Again he said take the sweets.....
Now the mother als
o heard that and said... Take the sweets dear...

Yet he didn't take...
The shopkeeper seeing the child not taking the sweets... he himself took the sweets and gave to the child.

The child was happy to get two hands full of sweets. While returning home the Mother asked the child.... Why didn't you take the sweets, when the shop keeper told you to take?...

Can you guess the response:

Child replies.... Mom! My hands are very small and if i take the sweets i can only take few.. but now you see when uncle gave with his big hands.... how many more sweets i got!

Moral:
When we take we may get little but when GOD gives... He gives us more; beyond our expectations.... more than what we can hold..!!

So lets do good deeds and pass around kindness and love, so that when GOD gives, we get a LOT OF GOOD THINGS in return. TWO HANDS FULL.


Keep Smiling..!

Wednesday, February 18, 2009

The highest paid CEOs in India

Mukesh D Ambani

Rank: No 1

Designation: Chairman and managing director

Company: Reliance Industries Ltd

Compensation: Rs 44.02 crore (Rs 440.2 million)

Reliance market cap: Rs 193,076.66 crore (Rs 1930.77 billion)

Background: Mukesh Ambani has been ranked India's richest person, and the world's fifth richest man, by business magazine Forbes. His net worth is approximately $50 billion. With a personal stake of 48 per cent, he is the largest shareholder of Reliance Industries, India's largest private sector enterprise.

Ambani, who joined Reliance in 1981, led the creation of the world's largest grassroots petroleum refinery at Jamnagar, Gujarat, built at a cost of Rs 100,000 crore (Rs 1,000 billion).

His fortune has seen a 62 per cent drop since January 2008, but he still ranks No 3 in Forbes' list of world's wealthiest CEOs.


Kalanithi Maran

Rank: No 2

Company: Sun TV Network Limited

Designation: Chairman and managing director

Compensation: Rs 32.41 crore (Rs 324.1 million)

Sun TV market cap: Rs 6,914.48 crore (Rs 69.14 billion)

About: Kalanithi Maran heads Sun TV, India's biggest regional broadcaster. He owns 21 television channels in Tamil, Telugu, Malayalam and Kannada and 42 FM stations in Tamil, Telugu, Kannada and Hindi. He is a shareholder in Red FM. He also owns two Tamil newspapers and four Tamil magazines.

In 2008, in partnership with Malaysia's Astro, he launched Sun Direct, a direct-to-home satellite television service provider. There are expansion plans in the pipeline, particularly in the television and radio industries.

Maran is the son of the late DMK leader and former Union minister Murasoli Maran, the grandnephew of DMK president M Karunanidhi, and the brother of Dayanidhi Maran, former Union minister for communications and information technology.

Though Sun TV is listed on the Bombay Stock Exchange, Maran owns 90 per cent of its shares. Forbes has ranked him India's 20th richest and the world's 446th richest person.

P R Ramasubrahmaneya Rajha

Rank: No 3

Company: Madras Cements Limited

Designation: Chairman and managing director

Compensation: Rs 32.40 crore (Rs 324 million)

Madras Cements market cap: Rs 774.10 crore (Rs 7.74 billion)

About: Rajha took over Madras Cements and the Ramco Group in 1962 from his ailing father and company founder, P A C Ramasamy Raja. Under Rajha's stewardship, the group has established a national presence and seen its turnover multiply ten-fold. Its five factories registered gross sales of Rs 2,254 crores (Rs 22.54 billion) while its gross fixed assets are worth Rs 2,714 crores (Rs 27.14 billion).

Madras Cements is the sixth largest producer of cement in India. It is also one of the largest wind energy producers in the country.

Anil D Ambani

Rank: No 4

Company: Reliance Communications

Designation: Chairman

Compensation: Rs 30.03 crore (Rs 300.3 million)

Reliance Communications market cap: Rs 35,449.20 crore (Rs 354.49 billion)

About: After separating from his brother Mukesh, Anil Ambani launched the Reliance Anil Dhirubhai Ambani Group. He is the chairman of all listed companies of the Reliance ADA Group, namely Reliance Communications, Reliance Capital, Reliance Energy and Reliance Natural Resources. Under his leadership, these companies have raised nearly $ 3 billion from global financial markets in a period of less than 15 months.

Reliance ADAG is among India's top three private sector business houses. Ambani's personal stake in Reliance Communications is 66 per cent.

He continues to be the sixth richest man in the world, though his financial value has taken a huge beating in the recent economic meltdown. Ambani lost $30 billion in the past nine months, more than anyone in the world. Reliance Communications, his biggest holding, is down 78 per cent since the beginning of 2008, says Forbes.

Malvinder Mohan Singh

Rank: No 5

Company: Ranbaxy Laboratories Limited

Designation: Chief executive officer and managing director

Compensation: Rs 19.58 crore (Rs 195.8 million)

Ranbaxy market cap: Rs 8,536.22 crore (Rs 85.36 billion)

About: Malvinder, with his brother Shivender, are the 13th richest Indians according to Forbes. In the list of the world's richest billionaires they come in at no 462.

Last year, the brothers sold their 34 per cent stake in generics maker Ranbaxy Laboratories to Japan's Daiichi Sankyo for $2 billion. The Daiichi-Ranbaxy combine is now the 15th biggest pharmaceutical company in the world.

Malvinder remains chairman and chief executive of Ranbaxy and will earn a salary and allowances of Rs 25 crore (Rs 250 million) per annum as against Rs 19.58 crore (Rs 195.8 million) earlier.

Post-acquisition, the Singh family has approximately Rs 10,000 crore (Rs 100 billion). They continue to retain their interest in Fortis Healthcare and Religare Financial Services.

Sunil Bharti Mittal

Rank: No 6

Company: Bharti Airtel Limited

Designation: Chairman and managing director

Compensation: Rs 19.55 crore (Rs 195.5 million)

Bharti Airtel market cap: Rs 120,725.42 crore (Rs 1,207.25 billion)

About: Mittal was 18 when he founded Bharti in 1976 with Rs 20,000 he borrowed from his politician father. His first business was making crankshafts for local bicycle manufacturers. He dabbled in different business after he moved to Mumbai, including establishing the first company to manufacture push button telephones in India.

He was one of the earliest to identify the mobile telecom business as a major growth area and launched services in the city of Delhi. Bharti Airtel, which he founded in 1995 with his two brothers and in which the family maintains a dominant stake, has over 88 million subscribers.

Mittal was honoured with the Padma Bhushan in 2007. His Forbes rankings include fourth richest Indian, no 9 in the list of world's wealthiest CEOs and no 64 in the list of world's billionaires.

Naveen Jindal

Rank: No 7

Company: Jindal Steel & Power Limited

Designation: Executive vice chairman and managing director

Compensation: Rs 16.93 crore (Rs 169.3 million)

Jindal Steel & Power market cap: Rs 15,754.20 crore (Rs 157.54 billion)

About: Jindal transformed JSPL from a moderately performing company to a star performer in the steel sector. He decided to acquire coal and iron ore mines, thereby making JSPL self-sufficient in the key raw materials needed for steel manufacture. Today, JSPL has the world's largest coal-based sponge iron capacity.

Jindal fought a legal case to earn Indian citizens the right to freely fly the national flag; this right was upheld by the Supreme Court in January 2004.

An MP from Kurukshetra (Haryana), he took up the initiative to ensure that the smoking ban was implemented in Parliament.

Jindal is an avid sportsperson and a national record holder in skeet shooting. He led the Indian team to the silver medal at the SAF Games in Pakistan in 2004. He has also captained his polo team to victory at the Indian Polo Association Championship in 2003 and 2004.

Vivek Kumar Jain

Rank: No 8

Company: Gujarat Fluorochemicals Limited

Designation: Managing director

Compensation: Rs 16.87 crore (Rs 168.7 million)

Gujarat Fluorochemicals market cap: Rs 708.12 crore (Rs 7.08 billion)

About: Jain has more 25 years of experience in setting up and managing different businesses. He was instrumental in starting GFL and bringing it to its present position as the largest manufacturer of refrigerants in the country. Around 95 per cent of GFL's refrigerant production is exported to more than 75 countries across the globe. Its distribution is spread across more than 50 countries.

Gujarat Fluorochemicals Limited is a part of the $2 billion INOX group of companies -- a family owned, professionally managed business group, with interests in diverse businesses. Jain is a director in 18 other Jain family companies, including Inox, a national chain of multiplex cinema theatres.

Sajjan Jindal

Rank: No 9

Company: J S W Steel Limited

Designation: Vice chairman and managing director

Compensation: Rs 16.73 crore (Rs 167.3 million)

J S W Steel market cap: Rs 4,111.20 crore (Rs 41.11 billion)

About: Jindal looks after JSW Steel Ltd, Jindal Thermal Power Company Ltd, South West Port Ltd, Jindal Praxair Oxygen Company Ltd and Southern Iron and Steel Company Ltd. Today, JSW Steel is the third largest manufacturer of steel in India, while the JSW (Jindal South West Holding) Group has expanded from a steel rolling mill in 1982 to a multi-business conglomerate. Its interest now extends to other areas such as power, port and chemicals.

Jindal says he plans to invest $15 billion in aluminium, cement and infrastructure over the next three years.

In 2008, he took over as the president of the Associated Chambers of Commerce and Industry. He is also director of the Indian Institute of Management, Indore and the National Shipping Board.

Pawan Kant Munjal

Rank: No 10

Company: Hero Honda Motors Limited

Designation: Managing director and chief executive officer

Compensation: Rs 15.73 crore (Rs 157.3 million)

Hero Honda market cap: Rs 18,772.80 crore (Rs 187.73 billion)

About: Munjal is responsible for the day-to-day management of Hero Honda Motors Ltd. He is also in charge of growth and strategic planning for the entire group. A graduate in mechanical engineering, he has been instrumental in bringing technological and managerial excellence to the company's operations.

He is also director of Hero Honda Finlease Limited and Daimler Hero Commercial Vehicles Limited.

He has been the chairman of several CII committees. He is also on the board of Indian Institute of Management, Lucknow.

An avid golfer, he is past chairman of the Asian PGA Tour and past president of Professional Golfers Association of India. Under his guidance, Hero Honda launched the Hero Indian Sports Academy in collaboration with Laureus Foundation to provide equal opportunities in sports to various communities and to reward sports talent in India.

Onkar S Kanwar

Rank: No 11

Company: Apollo Tyres Limited

Designation: Chairman and managing director

Compensation: Rs 15.53 crore (Rs 155.3 million)

Apollo Tyres market cap: Rs 837.61 crore (Rs 8.38 billion)

About: Kanwar has successfully led Apollo Tyres (he inherited the initial business from his father Raunaq Singh) for over 27 years. Under his leadership, Apollo witnessed a turnaround and emerged as a market leader.

Kanwar plays a pivotal role in the company's operations and articulation of its business philosophy. Today, Apollo is a professionally-run and competitive Indian tyre manufacturer. Innovation, quality and exclusivity are Kanwar's guiding principals, which have helped the company achieve pioneering initiatives.

Kanwar is a former member of the Government of India's National Manufacturing Competitiveness Council. He is a past president of the Federation of Indian Chambers of Commerce & Industry, International Chamber of Commerce, Automotive Tyre Manufacturers' Association and former director, Export Credit Guarantee Corporation of India and of the Kerala State Industrial Corporation.

Pankaj Ramanbhai Patel

Rank: No 12

Company: Cadila Healthcare Limited

Designation: Managing director

Compensation: Rs 14.43 crore (Rs 144.3 million)

Cadila Healthcare market cap: Rs 3,331.54 crore (Rs 33.32 billion)

About: Under Patel's leadership, Cadila posted a turnover of over Rs 2,300 crore (Rs 23 billion) in 2007-08.

In 2004, Patel was included by Forbes in its annual list of India's richest people. Forbes estimated Patel's net worth at $ 510 million, making him India's 26th richest person.

Patel also serves as director of Onconova Therapeutics, Inc. He is involved in many charitable activities and serves as the regional representative of the WHO's South East Asia region. He is a member of the executive committee of the Indian Drug Manufacturers Association.

Rohtas Goel

Rank: No 13

Company: Omaxe Limited

Designation: Chairman and managing director

Compensation: Rs 13.43 crore (Rs 134.3 million)

Omaxe market cap: Rs 821.13 crore (Rs 8.21 billion)

About: A civil engineer by qualification and a first-generation entrepreneur, Goel launched Omaxe as a civil construction and contracting organisation in 1989. By 2001, he had successfully changed its focus to real estate development and, within five years, established it as one of the leading developers in the northern capital region and neighbouring states of Haryana, Punjab and Uttar Pradesh.

He is a member of CII, FICCI, PHD Chambers of Commerce and AIMA amongst others.

Some of Omaxe's clients include Amity University, LG, Pepsi, Samsung, Wave Cinemas, National Brain Research Centre, PGIMER, Apollo Hospitals and Delhi High. The company has successfully executed more than 120 industrial, institutional, commercial, residential and hospital construction projects.

Murali K Divi

Rank: No 13

Company: Divis Laboratories Limited

Designation: Chairman and managing director

Compensation: Rs 13.25 crore (Rs 132.5 million)

Divis Laboratories market cap: Rs 6,104.70 crore (Rs 61.05 billion)

About: Divi holds a doctorate degree in pharmaceutical sciences and has extensive experience of over 30 years in the active pharmaceutical ingredients industry. He is a member of American Institute of Chemical Engineers, American Chemical Society, American Cosmetic Society and American Pharmaceutical Association.

Divis Laboratories was established in the year 1990. It focussed on developing new processes for the production of active pharma ingredients and intermediates. Later, the company expanded its breadth of operations to provide complete turnkey solutions to the domestic Indian pharmaceutical industry.

Divis Laboratories was valued at Rs 90 crore (Rs 900 million) when it went public in 2003. By 2004, Murali Divi was ranked the 42nd in the Indian billionares' club, with a net worth of Rs 825 crore (Rs 8.25 billion).

Ratan Jindal

Rank: No 15

Company: Jindal Stainless

Designation: Vice chairman and managing director

Compensation: Rs 12.42 crore (Rs 124.2 million)

Jindal Stainless market cap: Rs 602.38 crore (Rs 6.02 billion)

About: Ratan Jindal has seen Jindal Stainless Ltd complete a full circle from stainless steel to other segments of the steel industry and back to stainless steel.

The third of the four sons of steel magnate O P Jindal, founder of the group, he is determined that Jindal Stainless steals a march over other producers of stainless steel in the country.

Jindal also heads Artd'inox (Austenitic Creations Private Limited), Arc (Jindal Architecture Limited), Jindal Stainless Steelway Limited, the Vidya Devi Jindal School and the O P Jindal Modern School.

N Srinivasan

Rank: No 16

Company: India Cements Limited

Designation: Vice chairman and managing director

Compensation: Rs 12.13 crore (Rs 121.3 million)

India Cements market cap: Rs 3,027.61 crore (Rs 30.28 billion)

About: N Srinivasan is the son of India Cements founder T S Narayanaswami. Established in 1946, ICL set up its first plant in Tamil Nadu in 1949. Today, it has about seven cement manufacturing plants that can produce over 9 million tons per annum. Its activities span cement, sugar, shipping, power, trading and finance.

Coromandel Infotech India Limited, owned by ICL, is a software services company with over 275 staff, both in India and North America.

Srinivasan is on the board of several leading companies.

His passion for sports is reflected in the fact that IC paid $91 million to buy the Indian Premier League cricket team, Chennai Super Kings. He is also the treasurer of the Board of Control for Cricket in India. He is president, Tamil Nadu Golf Federation, Tamil Nadu Cricket Association and the All India Chess Federation.

Some of the other posts Srinivasan holds include:
~ Executive committee member, Federation of Indian Chambers and Commerce and Industry
~ Member, Tirumala Tirupati Devasthanam Board
~ Trustee, India Cements Educational Trust

~ President, India Cements Educational Society

Posts he has held in the past include
~ President, Cement Manufacturers' Association, for five terms
~ Chairman, National Council for Cement and Building Materials, for four terms
~ Chairman, Development Council for Cement Industry, constituted by the Government of India, for two terms
~ President, All India Organisation of Employers
~ Member, Prime Minister's High Profile Council of Trade and Industry

Kumar Mangalam Birla

Rank: No 17

Company: Grasim Industries Limited

Designation: Chairman

Compensation: Rs 11.25 crore (Rs 112.5 million)

Grasim Industries market cap: Rs 12,411.60 crore (Rs 124.12 billion)

About: He is counted among the world's richest billionaires. The Aditya Birla Group is among India's largest business houses and includes Grasim, Hindalco, UltraTech Cement, Aditya Birla Nuvo and Idea Cellular. The group's international footprint spans Thailand, Indonesia, Malaysia, Philippines, Egypt, Canada, China, Laos, USA, UK and Australia.

Birla holds key positions in various regulatory and professional boards. He serves on the prime minister's advisory council on trade and industry. He is chairman of the board of trade constituted by the commerce ministry and is on the RBI's board of directors.

He has served as the chairman of Sebi's committee on corporate governance, and as chairman of Sebi's committee on insider trading. He authored the nation's first report on corporate governance.

He has been showered with several accolades including the Asia Pacific Global HR Excellence -- Exemplary Leader Award and the World Economic Forum's Young Global Leader.

Kamal K Singh

Rank: No 18

Company: Rotla India Limited

Designation: Founder chairman and managing director

Compensation: Rs 10.92 crore (Rs 109.2 million)

Rotla India market cap: Rs 1,493.45 crore (Rs 14.93 billion)

About: Singh, a first generation entrepreneur, promoted the Rolta group in the 1970s. Rolta provides intelligent, cutting-edge IT-based solutions for mission-critical and strategic business challenges. It is a market leader in the geospatial, engineering design and defence and homeland security segments. Rolta has several international subsidiaries and has executed multi-million dollar projects in over 35 countries.

Singh is recognised as a pioneer in the CAD/ CAM/ GIS field in India and has over 35 years' experience in all aspects of corporate management including finance, technology and international business.

He is the vice chairman of the India Tech Foundation's governing council. He is also a member of various organisations like the CII, FICCI, Electronics & Computer Software Export Promotion Council, NASSCOM, MAIT and Indo American Chamber of Commerce.

Singh has served on the board of Punjab National Bank and Indian Bank as a Government of India nominee director. In 2007, he received the IMM Award for Excellence as top CEO.

Mohan Lal Bhartia

Rank: No 19

Company: India Glycols Limited

Designation: Former chairman and managing director

Compensation: Rs 10.81 crore (Rs 108.1 million)

India Glycols market cap: Rs 150.52 crore (Rs 151 billion)

About: M L Bhartia passed away on March 10, 2008. Till his death, he was the chairman and managing director of the company.

Bhartia established his family's business in Calcutta shortly after partition, focusing on basic manufacturing.

In 1978, the Bhartias established Vam Organics. Ten years ago, ML Bhartia and his son Uma Shankar (who is now India Glycol's CMD), set out on their own. Bhartia's other sons, Shyam and Hari, remained with Vam, which underwent a makeover and became Jubilant Organosys.

India Glycols Limited is one of the leading manufactures of glycols, ethoxylates and PEGs, performance chemicals, glycol ether and acetates, guar gum and potable alcohol. It is the first and only company in the world to produce ethylene oxide/ mono ethylene glycol through a renewable agro route based on molasses since 1989.

A K Agarwal

Rank: No 20

Company: Vedanta Resources

Designation: Executive chairman

Compensation: Rs 10.60 crore (Rs 106 million)

Market cap: Pound 1,874.58 million (not listed in India)

About: Agarwal is founder-director and executive chairman of the UK-based Vedanta Resources corporation, which owns mining and metal resources in India, Australia and Zambia. He was ranked 164 in Forbes magazine's 2008 list of the world's billionaires.

In 2007, he announced a $3.1 billion expansion of Vedanta Resources' capacities. In 2006, he donated $1 billion to establish the Vedanta University modelled on Stanford University. It will be built in Orissa on a 6,000 acre campus that will ultimately accommodate 100,000 students.

Agarwal, who founded the Vedanta group in 1976, is also chairman of Sterlite and is a Director of BALCO, HZL, and Vedanta Alumina Ltd. He has over 30 years' experience as an industrialist.

Note: Market cap as on February 16, 2009

Courtesy: www.rediff.com

25 TIPS FOR RELATIONSHIP SUCCESS


What’s the key to successful relationships? Here, BT reveals the simple things you need to know to deepen your partnership and make your relationship work

1. Without quality time, your relationship will not survive. Carve out at least half an hour a night, and at least one day a month when you the two of you spend time exclusively together.
2. You will both need security, comfort. A good relationship is built on compromise and a great deal of give and take on both sides.
3. Keep your dependence and independence in balance. Tell and show your partner how much you need him, but don’t cling, as that can make your partner feel trapped.
4. Encourage him to listen to you, by showing appreciation when he does. By the same token, show interest when he talks to you. Be aware that most men aren’t mentally programmed for conversation in the way women are. They need more silence and internal time.
5. Make him appreciate you. Don’t wait for a spontaneous compliment, but say something good about yourself and ask for his agreement.
6. Teach him, preferably early in your relationship, exactly how to give you a fail-safe orgasm because it’s unlikely he’ll find out alone. If you don’t yet know yourself, find out.
7. Learn to do the one thing that is most likely to restore good feeling in your relationship giving your partner a genuine, loving and approving smile.
8. Often those subtle quirks that first attracted you to your partner can, with time, turn around and become toecurlingly annoying habits. Learn to love
him, warts and all.

9. Hidden resentments poison a relationship; so if something bothers you, say it. Remember that while men are wary of emotional conversations, they love to find solutions. Express your problem and then ask him to help you find the answer.
10. Learn that punishing your partner won’t work. It may make you feel better to give him a hard time, but it will actually make him dig his heels in more. A better tactic is to reward the things you like and ignore what you don’t like.
11. Money is the number one cause of couple conflict. For a relationship to work, you need to address your finances and work out a budget.
12. If the domestic work is not divided fairly between you, it will cause friction in your relationship. Make a list of the domestic tasks, talk it through with your partner and mobilize the whole family, your partner included, to share the work.
13. If you have children, involve your partner as much as possible with the childcare even if you feel he’s not as good at it as you are. It’s important to present a united front to your children.
14. Sort out your sex life. The sex may ebb and flow over the years, but if sex starts going downhill, don’t just accept it. As soon as you notice a slide, question why and then work at bringing the passion back.
15. Don’t assume you won’t be tempted to have an affair as almost everyone is. You need to learn to resist. If you do stray, don’t feel it spells the end of your relationship. Most couples recover, particularly from a one-night-stand, and often find that unrooting the cause of the affair helps them to get even closer. So, you need to learn to resist. But don’t think that an affair is the end of everything.
16. Remember that boredom typically covers up anger. If you feel bored with him, ask yourself what you’re angry about.
17. Be aware that men generally feel overwhelmed by emotion more than women do. If he’s angry or tearful, half an hour’s ‘unfolding’ time to himself will help get his balance back and make him more able to interact positively with you.
18. Learn how to argue well. The trick is to never say anything that you wouldn’t want to hear said to you.

19. Research suggests you need five positive experiences to erase the memory of one negative experience. So give five kind words for each bitchy comment. Give five hugs for each cold shoulder.
20. Learn how to negotiate. Each of you states what you want, then both of you work together to find a way forward.
21. Accept the things that won’t change. Some characteristics about your partner are there for life and you have to face that.
22. Learn to forgive. If you know you will never forgive your partner over something important, then give him and yourself a break and start again, with someone else.
23. Realize that the two of you will shift and change over the years. So, even if you think you understand him, or believe you have agreements sorted, check regularly at least once a year to make sure that neither of you has changed your mind.
24. Know when to leave. If your life aims are incompatible, there are heavy drugs or violence around, or if there is consistently more pain than pleasure, then walk before the relationship destroys you.
25. Don’t think that going to counseling equals failure. It can turn a bad relationship around. It can turn an average relationship into a brilliant one.

Courtesy: Bombay Times